top of page
  • Writer's pictureClaire Wortley

'But you look ok?!'

Updated: Nov 9, 2020

Ever heard this line before? or maybe 'if you weren't well I would've noticed!'

I've heard these before along with many other lines.

I don't know why people think they would be able to see your depression/anxiety or mental health issue? There are plenty of physical illnesses/problems that are not obvious to the naked eye until they are chronic and a lot of mental health issues are the same.

Back in 2012 I was unwell both physically and emotionally. Sadly if I was actually having a good day someone often brought me down with a thud commenting on my being so pale or underweight.

During this particular time I realised I needed to make some changes. I wasn't sure what but it took another couple of years before I looked into nutrition and intolerances which played a part in my ill mental health.

Now I look far healthier and the next kind of comment I receive is 'but you seem so confident. You anxious? Don't be daft!

A lot of this comes down to me being in a much better place with my physical health. Constant over use of Anti-biotics had stripped my gut of its healthy bacteria leaving me with bad digestion, bloating and mood swings etc. I started probiotics and saw a vast improvement over time. Gradually I was learning to look after all of me, not just my skin or my hair but everything inside and out. As I felt better I felt able to take on more challenges and change. Anxiety would still niggle but this was more out of habit I believe.

I was in a show with the local Am Dram society and people would say that if I could get on stage I couldn't possibly have anxiety. This would make me angry and still does sometimes. Everyone who suffers from anxiety will find different things that feel impossible. For example no matter how anxious I was I could drive and drive anywhere but going to a party would totally freak me out as would trying new foods. For others it could feel impossible to drive but they would happily try new foods and socialise. As I said before, everyone is different.

So today's motto, I guess, is not to let people label you because your struggles aren't the same as their interpretation of illness/struggles. We are all unique and so are our struggles and paths to wellness.

Feel free to share them here or privately via message with me.

Love to all


Recent Posts

See All


Claire's chair logo
bottom of page