top of page
  • Writer's pictureClaire Wortley


Updated: Nov 17, 2020

What the F*&kis going on?

Seriously? I get my sh*t together and then someone who seriously needs to get their sh*t together totally screws up my good work!!!!!!!🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

This ever happen to you guys? I have put in so much work and then one a$$hole ruins it!!!!

Cue: boxing gloves and punchbag.........I'm no pro but I enjoy yelling 'face, gut, kidney' at the bag and placing jabs and kicks wherever I feel the need to place them.

I ❤ these little darlings

As I punch, I picture my frustration/anger/rage leaving my body and going into the body punchbag. Visualising this helps me to calm down rather than wind me up. After a few minutes of screeching/swearing and punching as my adrenaline levels start to reduce or at least stop readying for a fight I then start on my energy work and I will come back to this in a while.

I don't know about you but I have a real thing about being walked all over! I hate feeling that people think I am so insignificant that they can totally ignore my existence. They can carry on with no regard for me. I am not enough to matter therefore they can just do whatever they like. This really riles me. I mean it brings out my inner hulk.

This is probably how I look when I get mad cos I'm rather short lol

While I am mad I think of all the things I want to do in a kinda Tom & Jerry way.......smack that person with a frying pan and watch their head go to the shape of the pan. Blow them up with TNT and then laugh as they stand there a little blackened and smoking. Juvenile but it works for me!!!!!

Getting all riled up sends my stress levels up. The needle on my stress-o-meter starts climbing up to red. Cortisol is having a party,playing havoc with my digestive system and generally making me feel physically agitated.

Should I stand my ground? Get all defensive and call that person every name under the sun?

So here is where energy work comes in.

I started using EAM (Energy Alignment Method) about a year ago and it has helped me to reduce my stress levels. Don't get me wrong, I still react strongly but the effects subside much quicker.

By releasing the negative beliefs, thoughts and patterns I can put a halt on my temper and my wish to make my presence known. I am able to calm the rage and reason with myself. I use thoughts like 'that person is doing the best they can in this moment and if that makes them an a$$hole then best leave them alone.'

I'm not going to go as far as saying I can be empathic or compassionate because to be honest sometimes I can't and I don't want to. So to become un-phased by that persons' existence is a step in the right direction especially as they will no doubt stick to their negative and toxic ways and piss me off again. I hope that with practice I can learn to ignore their drama and desire to stir up trouble thus keeping my stress-o-meter needle in the green.

A bit about stress levels - it is important to recognise where your needle is on the stress-o-meter. It is to be expected that trauma, shock or loss will send your needle into the red but this is where you need to be aware of whether or not the needle stays in the red or very close to it. When you live, day to day, with your needle up near or in the red you are running the risk of burnout or emotional crisis. We can't always prevent things/people from pushing us into the red but we can do something to ensure it comes back down again. This is so important!

Downtime is as important as preparation! What do I mean by down time? Time to release the tensions of an event/encounter or day. Running off on yet another errand and ignoring your needles whereabouts will not help you. It will eventually catch up with you in the form of ill health in one form or another so take notice and start looking after that needle.

Find things that relax you. It could be moderate exercise, reading, chatting with a trusted friend, drawing, blogging lol anything that helps your body to reset and heal.

Please check in with your needle on a daily basis.........keep it green!

Take care



Claire's chair logo
bottom of page